It’s About Being Understood.
Somewhere along the way, a lot of people started believing that “speaking confidently” means having the perfect voice, perfect wording, and absolutely no nervousness.
But real-life confidence sounds much simpler than that.
Why “perfect” is the wrong goal
Perfect is a trap because it makes you focus on:
• how you look
• how you sound
• what people might think
• whether you’re “messing up”
And when your brain is busy monitoring all of those issues, it’s harder to speak clearly.
Being understood is a better goal because it gives you something you can control:
1. clarity
2. pacing
3. structure
4. one main point
What “being understood” actually sounds like:
👍🏽 shorter sentences
👍🏽 a slower start
👍🏽 one clear point
👍🏽 a pause before the important line
Confidence doesn’t always sound loud. It sounds steady.
The “one point” rule (instant confidence upgrade)
Before you speak, decide on your one point.
Think of it like this:
“If they remember one thing I say, it will be this…”
That one main point becomes your anchor.
Examples:
If you’re in a meeting:
One point: “We need a simple plan we can actually finish.”
If you’re introducing yourself:
One point: “I’m reliable, and I learn fast.”
If you’re answering a question in class:
One point: “The main idea is …
The 10-second clarity reset (use it anywhere)
If you feel nervous, or you start rambling, do this:
✔️ Pause
✔️ Breathe out once
✔️ Say your one point in a short sentence
That’s it. That’s the reset.
Starter lines that make you sound confident (without trying)
Here are a few “being understood” lines you can use:
“Let me keep this simple.”
“Here’s the main point.”
“Short version first.”
“What I mean is…”
“One thing I want to highlight is…”
You don’t need fancy words. You need words that are easy to understand.
Small Practice Moment
Pick one situation you’re nervous about (interview, meeting, class, phone call).
Write this down and say out loud:
“If they remember one thing, it’s this…”
Repeat twice what you want them to remember. So that when you’re in the actual situation, you’ve already practiced what you want them to remember about you.
You don’t have to perform. You have to communicate.
Keep practicing ☀️
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